Just ask Anderson Cooper. One would hope that after The Silver Fox "came out" in a gracious, low-key and dignified way several weeks ago, his mate of three years in what the public has been told is a monogamous relationship, would behave in the same, decent way. Not so, as clear pictures of Ben Maisani passionately kissing and holding hands with another man in a NYC park came to light last weekend just as Anderson and Ben had embarked on what one would have thought was a romantic getaway on a spiffy yacht.
Imagine being in an enclosed, in the middle-of-the-ocean kind of way on a yacht with one's love only to be hit with the news that you have been duped, cheated-on, and in public, no less! Ouch! No matter what the private details are between Anderson and Ben, the timing could not have been worse. Just as we have stopped obsessing (or deliberately ignoring) all of the Kristen Stewart-Rupert Sanders-Rob Pattinson-Liberty Ross "scandal" of another outdoor, in the public indiscretion, and have finally put away our hand fans and smelling salts, THIS has to happen? To such a nice guy (based on all accounts) as is Anderson?
Boo-Hiss to his guy. I mean, if Ben is unhappy, then break-up and take the flack. Don't go kissin' on Them Hunky Menz behind your partner's back! Tsk. Actually, in Anderson's case, his heart may not be as broken as some would suggest, but he certainly can't be pleased with how stupid Ben was to be seen with another man in a compromising situation when your SO is Anderson Cooper for eff's sake! I mean, how stupid is that? Some sneaky paparazzo will always be following you.
We can only speculate that Anderson Cooper is upset. I don't have the inside info. Trust me, only Kathy Griffin and Anderson's mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, know whatzzup. But, I am thinking of the Infidelity Issue with more than a brief superficial view this morning based on his situation and the brew-hah-hah surrounding every little thing Rob Pattinson will or will not say about Kristen Stewart as he continues to promote his new film, dodging questions about their personal dramas of the moment.
I won't natter on about why people cheat beyond a few words. Books, tons of articles, armchair psychologists, Real-Chair Psychologists/Psychiatrists, have speculated for ages. Hey, it's really simple: Some people become attracted to other people and for their own personal reasons choose to follow-through on consummating the chemistry. Some do it without morals. Others do it with guilt but do it anyway. Justifications abound. Basic instincts rule. Unless one is cheating to upset their partner, as in a pre-meditated I Am Going To Break Your Heart/Wallet/Spirit, it can be nothing more than lust.
Whatever the reason, the heart (or loins) want what they want when they want it. Thus, Infidelity. Selfish? Sure. Romantic? Sometimes. True love? Rare, but it happens.
People will cheat as long as the Human Being is alive. Whether a flaw in character or the siren call of a new adventure, attractions happen. Affairs begin. It hurts like a burning stomach ulcer when it happens to you. If you're in doubt about the stability of your own union, make sure to stock up on tons of Anti-Acids.
Conversely, if you intend to "cheat" stay away from public parks.
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